Can you change on your own?  Really?  Can you really change without someone else being involved?  I think for most of us the answer is "no".  The truth is that most of us need the help of other people if we’re going to truly change.  In fact, one of the main reasons that change is so difficult has to do with the fact that we’re all reluctant to involve anyone else!

You’ve got to take the step of including someone else if you want to change.  Most of us realize that.  Few of us take the step.  Almost all of us wonder what would the other person need to do in order to help us change?

Marshall Goldsmith, author of What Got You Here Won’t Get You There, has a great Six Question Process for helping executives become better coaches…which is right on target for what we all need to be asked.  Here are the questions:

  • Where are we going?  This is about where the direct report thinks the organization should be going.
  • Where are you going?  This is about where the part of the organization that the direct report is engaged in is going.
  • What is going well.  This gets at the direct report’s understanding of how things are going.
  • What are key suggestions for improvement?  This gets at where the direct report feels the wheels are coming off.
  • How can I help?
  • What suggestions do you have for me?

Do you already have a set of questions that you’re asking?  What are they?  Would Goldsmith’s set help your organization take a next step?

Can We Be Coached?